Am I too sensitive? Or is this just too flippin’ much?

This is a real question.

Am I too sensitive or is this world just too flippin’ much??

I know I talked about the numbers end of the sensory overload we all experience a couple weeks ago, so there’s literal proof that that’s not made up.

So many of us live lives that look like the suitcases people lug back from a weekend Christmas shopping trip. Merely getting the suitcase closed takes one person sitting on top of it, and the other pulling on the zipper with rubber gloves for better grip.

How do y’all think taking that thing onto an escalator is gonna go?

And no this isn’t to bash consumerism, though you might be shocked to hear that I do have an opinion about that too. This is actually - truth be told - a confession that my life feels like that sometimes, too.

Because, yes, I have dragged these suitcases all across the world myself and rarely ever was it worth it.

Recently I have asked myself more and more why it is like that.

Do we simply live in a system that doesn’t allow us to “have it all” even though that’s the message we hear everywhere?

(Mainly from successful business women who also have 3 kids and a lush beautiful garden, clean house and happy marriage. Interesting how no one ever says to a man, oh you have it all don’t you?)

Ok so, I’m hesitant to type this because it should be obvious but:

Those picture perfect people do not exist.

Everything comes with a price.

People don’t show us their perfect lives, they show us their choices.

And every choice you make FOR something, you also make FOR the consequence that comes with it.

Read that again.

It’s just…we don’t see the consequence of said choice on instagram or linkedin.

We just see the dress and the promotion.

That’s that but here’s the real tragedy:

These messages program our brains that we should be doing the same.

That it is possible without a price.

That if you don’t strive for that you’re a failure.

Love,

that is your suitcase on its way to a broken zipper.

These are the women who look at me in my coaching sessions and say things like:

I barely have time to do anything else.

It’s just been so intense lately, like I can’t catch a break.

I feel so frustrated and stuck I don’t even know where to begin.

I really don’t want to complain but it’s all too much. How do they do it?

They don’t. They are hanging on, just like you.

And it doesn’t matter whether you’re trying to put food on the table for your kids and keep a job, build a business and pay your bills, take care of your elderly parents or just simply make it through a rough patch of life with no help…

The matter of fact is you have a million tabs open in your brain at all times and the world is telling you that you’re not allowed to close them because this is normal and just the way it is and, by the way, also what you asked for and that you’re blessed to have it all.

Wait a minute…

there it is again.

Those words:

Have it all.

Maybe you already do have it all?

Maybe “having it all” is just too loaded, and frankly, sometimes sucks?

So what if we call it: I have enough.

All that I have is enough.

And no, I am not telling you to not have dreams and want change, I am telling you that having enough means having everything that you need.

That feels like a very different place to be than having to have it all?

Actually, just as I type these words, having it all fills me with an energy that says:

“Oh shit, I gotta have it all? That seems like a lot, damn ok, let’s go. Oh crap, I just spilled coffee, whatever I’ll clean it up while I write an email with the other hand.”

Feel me?

Now let’s try: I have enough. (I literally just exhaled).

This feels like:

“Whatever it is, it’s going to be ok. I don’t have to go grocery shopping, I’ll fix something with what I have in the fridge, it doesn’t have to be a gourmet meal, tomorrow is another day, I’m fine, I have enough right now.”

Now, NOTHING has changed in my life between writing these two sentences….but man does my body feel different.

So to recap:

• No you are not too sensitive.

• Yes, everything around you is too much.

• No, it is not your fault you can’t close that darn suitcase.

And Love, no I cannot single handedly change the system that has us on the verge of tears on a regular basis (if I could, I would trust me).

But what I can do is offer you a way to FEEL different about it all.

Because when we feel differently about things, they actually become different…

While I may not have all the answers, I feel you, I am you (that’s the only reason I can write this stuff) and I am falling in love more and more with how my own body guides me through this whole suitcase endeavor…

So, if you’re ready to travel more lightly - get in touch here.

Wishing you a wonderful week!

Love,

Mel

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Ps. All my newsletters are written by me, not AI (so please flag the typos). 😉