Look, you can't say flower without saying flow....

I’m not going to lie, you know what has been driving me a little nuts lately?

The realization that we constantly strive for change - things need to be faster, better, more, less, thinner, thicker… seriously I am losing track.

But at the very same time people complain about things changing all the time! (Which I get too, but like??)

And in the midst of it we get so caught up in the change I wonder whether anything really changes?

So to summarize:

We want change.

We complain about change.

And that never changes.

So, things sort of stay the....same?

Cool.

Mel, where is this coming from?

Glad you asked…

ever feel like you just can’t keep up with your own life?

Or trying to make it happen faster?

Things are either too much, your to do lists overflow and that is really not the kind of flow you want, or you’re stomping your feet because impatience is your middle name.

You end up ranting to your best friend about how life is just too damn complicated only to realize, wait a minute…I did this…

I am the one who go involved in yet another side project because I wanted to say no but what came out was yes, and now I have to bake a cake for the birthday of a stranger when my oura ring alternates between telling me to stretch my legs and asking me whether I’m ok?

I am the one who said I needed more time but what I really meant was “make it happen yesterday”!!

So somehow, all I do is wanting (waiting?) for things to get better (aka change) and while I do, I get stuck in a rut of not knowing what to do, which is funny becaue I am doing a heck of a lot of things every day…

Welcome to the life of an overthinker.

Or honestly just a human trying to keep up with life in 2025.

While all this was looping in my head this week, as I have one foot in it myself and the other is yearning to bring support and relief to my clients dealing with overwhelm like this, a dear friend called me and - call it divine intervention - delivered the answer to me on a silver platter, or well...a whatsapp call.

And it’s this:

FLOWERS DON’T GIVE A S*IT.

Say what?

Let me explain:

Two things..

1. I thought it was Einstein but apparently it was some Greek philosopher who said the only constant is change, which means we’re kind of not going to get around things changing all the time. So there’s that.

2. The next best thing of course would be to control the change. Ya know, timing, when and where…make it convenient. Well nope, that doesn’t work either

So how it works is that we can’t get around change but we still let it be the reason for so much of our suffering??

Great.

Then it hit me… you know who’s really good at NOT doing that?

Flowers.

Might be cheesy, yes,, but what if we reframe flowers to being the most badass thing on this planet?

Stay with me..

Have you ever heard a flower ask for permission to bloom? No.

Has any flower ever wondered, is this the right time? No.

Or tried to rush the opening of its petals because it just wasn’t quick enough? Has a flower ever just stopped growing because it overdid it the day before?

A flower just happens.

Changes constantly.

Effortlessly.

SLOWLY.

A flower is not too much, not too little.

It doesn’t wait, it just happens.

It doesn’t control, it just happens.

A flower doesn’t go: everything would be great if I was a red rose or my petals were brighter or if I had grown in this other garden.

A flower will totally bloom in your face whether you like it or not.

Look, l don’t know how else to put it but you can’t say flower without saying flow.

To me, and in human terms, this symbolizes the constant dance between trusting the process and taking action.

Knowing when to lay on the gas or off it.

Learning when to rest without guilt or doing it scared.

Surrendering into the change knowing you can't stop it anyway and swimming with it instead of forcing or rushing.

Because if you don’t...?

You’ll chip your teeth trying to harvest something that’s not right or blow your enginge chasing after something that was never going to be.

(Yes, I love metaphors.)

It goes back to this piece of wisdom so many of us (because I doubt it was just me) have rolled our eyes over: It’s not the destination, it’s the journey, but I kind of prefer....flowers don’t give a shit, same same.

So as you go into this week, ask yourself:

What am I trying to control?

What can I let go of more?

What can I trust more?

Where in my life can I take more action?

Or in other words…

how can I be more like a flower (& not give a shit.. 😉)

Love,

Mel

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Ps. All my newsletters are written by me, not AI (so please flag the typos). 😉